People often come to EMDR curious and a little nervous. They've heard it can help with painful memories, but they're not sure what it actually involves. Here's what a session with me usually looks like.
We don't start with the hardest memory
The first sessions are about getting to know your history and building calming skills you can use anytime. We might practise imagining a calm place, noticing your body, or using a short breathing exercise. Processing only begins when you feel ready.
A processing session, step by step
- We choose a memory to work on and notice the image, belief and body sensations connected to it.
- While you briefly bring it to mind, I guide you through bilateral stimulation: side-to-side eye movements, gentle tapping or tones.
- After each short set, we pause and you share whatever you noticed. There's no right answer.
- We continue until the memory feels less charged, then end with a calming exercise so you leave grounded.
You are always in control. We can pause or stop at any moment.
What people tend to notice
Many people describe the memory as feeling further away afterward, or say an old belief like "it was my fault" loosens its grip. Some feel tired after a session, so I suggest leaving a little quiet time afterward.
Licensed psychologist in Denver and online across Colorado, working with anxiety, relationships, fertility and trauma.
About EMDR therapy →This article is for general information and isn't a substitute for professional care. If you're in crisis, call or text 988.
